We all admire people who have self confidence and probably wish we could be a bit more like them. After all confident people seem to be among the happiest people we know and they always seem to be able to achieve the goals they set themselves.
In general, confident people achieve more success and live life on their own terms.
What about You? Would you like some of that too?
In this article I want to share with you my 10 favourite tips to help you learn How to build self confidence for yourself.
How To Build Self Confidence
- Get Some Exercise. Before you sigh too deeply or roll your eyes, I’m not suggesting you start training for the marathon or become a bodybuilder. However, taking some moderate exercise will improve your fitness and general health as well as leaving you feeling better about yourself. Completing a workout gives you a sense of achievement which helps you to feel more positive about the next challenge.
- Tackle some negatives. Take some time to think about the things that irritate or annoy you in your life and write them all down. Once you’ve written them down, start thinking about what you can do to eliminate or lessen them. Then take action! Dealing with problems is a great boost to self confidence
- Give your ego a boost. Think about the things you are good at and write these down too. You might actually surprise yourself at how big your list might be. Rather than focus on things you struggle with, remind yourself regularly of the things you actually do well.
- Be yourself. We all out on different faces to some extent in different situations but make sure it doesn’t get to the extent where you aren’t being true to the real you. Take pride in being the individual that you are and let other see what a great person you are too.
- Stop feeling inferior. If you regularly find yourself thinking that “I can’t do it” or “I can’t have it” or “I don’t deserve it” then you need to change your mindset now. When one of these thoughts enters your head, dismiss it and tell yourself the opposite instead.
- Relish a challenge. When faced with a challenge, instead of just shying away from it or avoiding it, make yourself face up to it. Consider what you can do to overcome problems such as research, trying alternative methods, or asking for help.
- Challenge self-doubt. Sometime thoughts of self-doubt are good to prevent you from getting into trouble but usually they are just negative thoughts that will hold you back from achieving the things you want. Next time you doubt your abilities ask yourself if the doubt is valid. Be honest with yourself. If its not then its time to dismiss the emotion and believe in yourself.
- Change your outlook on failures. It’s inevitable that you will fail from time to time and if you are low on self confidence then this can just make you feel even less confident. The trick is to stop focusing on the failure and instead ask yourself what you have learned from the failure and use it to make better decisions the next time. Keep reminding yourself that a failure is actually a learning opportunity.
- Take ownership of your problems. If you really want to know how to build self confidence then take note of this tip. I am always amazed at the lengths that people go to, to avoid taking responsibility for their circumstances. If you have problems to deal with then start looking for solutions to them today. Don’t wait for other people to sort them for you – do it yourself! Being brave and decisive in your actions will boost your confidence enormously.
- Trust yourself. Your life experiences to date will have given you the instincts you need to make decisions about what to do. Trust your instincts and when you need to make a choice – go for whatever your gut is telling you. Occasionally you might be wrong but more often you will be glad you trusted yourself and it breeds self confidence for future decisions.
So there you have it – 10 of my favourite tips on how to build self confidence.
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